Can a chick "wife" a dude up?

Good Afternoon Y'all!

Anybody that knows me knows that I LOVE me some reality tv shows. RHOA is my Sunday addiction. If you watch the show, you know a little bit about Phaedra and Apollo. Phaedra is a college educated attorney w/her own firm who is married to Apollo, a man that she grew up with who has a criminal record. For the sake of time, I won't get into detail into his past, which is nonviolent. Anyway, after Apollo got out of prison, him and Phaedra got married and began working on their family; they currently have two boys, a newborn and toddler.

Anyway, I gave you the background for this couple because it relates to my blog topic for the day:

 

CAN YOU "WIFE" A DUDE?????

 

 

Me and my friends used to joke about about 'wife'-ing a dude when we were younger. Basically, we meant in the context of "I would be in a committed relationship with him. I would pursue him. He may not be on my level (ie financially, educationally, mentally, etc..) and I can take on the task of getting him on my level." Not necessarily saying, "I will be a sugar mama" but basically guiding him to upgrade himself on his dollar, not ours.

 

Back to Phae-Phae and her hubby....

 

She is the breadwinner, she makes the decisions, she pays the bills, she has her career, husband and family (as it appears on tv), however, it looks like she does/says a lot to emasculate him as a man to "keep him in line", which is NOT COOL, no matter what the situation. Apollo is still trying to find his professional niche (again, as it appears on tv). Phaedra constantly makes reference that Apollo "knows what side his bread is buttered on", on national tv to the millions (and millions!) of at home viewers. Granted, she makes more money, but she makes NO QUALMS in making it known that Apollo is a "kept" man. People consistently point out the "upperhand" she has in her marriage...
 
..... but is it a fair title?

In a sense, is Phaedra supporting her husband,  being a sugah mama or "wife"ing a dude?

However, on the other side of the coin.....

When dudes "wife" a chick, he is admirable. He is "looking out" or "holding her down". Yes, some women get a bad rep if she jumps from peen to peen for financial support, but does the guy get a bad rep? Not often and we can attribute this to the popular saying "It ain't trickin' if you got it!"...
 
................I suppose..

Ladies, have you "wifed" a dude? Dudes, have you been "wifed"? Would you or would you be down for the cause?

Weigh in if you want...

Unti next ime....

 

Luckily, I grew up and realized you should never add pressure for a man to change himself; a man (or a person in general) changes themselves for the better or "upgrades" on their own free will. Also, I am BLESSED that my fiancé came as a TOTAL AND COMPLETE package that complements me.